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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Living With Relatives" Living With Relatives (5) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board (moved from Other Topics). Tue 22 Apr 08, 6:00 PM MasterMattsslave CA, 4 yrs Y! Master will be moving in with me and my parents and brother for the summer (He got a job where i work) and i am a little concerned that W/we will have to "tone down" our M/s relationship, since W/we have not come out of the "BDSM closet" yet to anyone. Does A/anyone have any suggestions of little things W/we can do to keep O/our relationship fresh in O/our minds (aside from my daily routine of positions and journalling) without arousing suspicion? my parents' are very strict and old fashioned, and though they know W/we are sexually active, they don't approve of premarital sex in their home. It's going to be a very difficult summer, and Master and i don't want to lose O/our special relationship. Any ideas? Thanks, nadia "I will love and protect you forever. you are worth any risk. you are not broken" (Master Matt) 22 Apr 08, 10:11 PM Remoses US(PA), 6 yrs A friend of mine once told me that for every year you live with your parents after puberty, you loose a year off your adult life. The advice I would give to anyone in your position? Set up your own household. It's good to practice these things as early as it is practical to do so. Anyway, It's good to be able to set your own rules and live on your own. That would be true even if your rules are His rules! I am Remoses. Just because it's inconvenient, doesn't mean it's not required. Quod principi placet legis habet vigorem (The pleasure of the prince has the force of law.) **Pronounce it: Ray-mosay.** 22 Apr 08, 11:21 PM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! Getting your own place may not be a bad idea. I had my own apartment and lived by myself while I put myself through college. It defiantly wasn't easy and money was tight but I made it though. If you decide to get your own place and you don't want your parents to flip out because you're Master is moving in with you. Then get a two bedroom apartment and stage the second bedroom as his. If moving out isn't an option, then you will have to adjust your life. My Master has a young daughter that we keep shielded from the lifestyle. Therefore the collar is put away and my Master's orders become nicely worded questions. When He asks me a question like, “Can you please go get me a drink?” I know that is an order and I better go get Him a drink. Since it is important to respect your parent's wishes and not engage in sexual activities in their home. You and your Master may need to plan a night out every now and then. best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl Edited 23 Apr 08, 3:11 AM by slave_emma 23 Apr 08, 3:37 PM MasterMatt84 CA, 4 yrs Thank you for the responses we have gotten so far. Perhaps I should clarify, as my slave did not explain very well. I already pay rent for my school house. I am taking the job near her so that we can be closer for the summer, and because the job pays better than my job here. Her parents would like to get to know me better, and will soon likely be moving to Africa. They see this as their way to help us out before they leave, and as a way to bond with me. I would like to strengthen the bond between myself, her parents and her brother, as I intend to be a part of this family. I am financially unable to afford both housing at home and near the new job. It is not possible for me to sublet my school house, so I accepted her parents invitation. This arrangement will only be short term, and she will be moving to my city at the end of summer. By no means will we be taking a break from our lifestyle, despite our outward actions changing. She will learn to read my eye and body signals as commands, and will learn very quickly if she disobeys me or talks back to me, as there will still be punishments. My question is what types of punishments and rewards can be done without triggering her parents radar? I already have some ideas...feel free to give me some of yours. Edited 23 Apr 08, 3:38 PM by MasterMatt84 23 Apr 08, 4:17 PM 000-810-743 US(MN), 7 yrs Greetings, MasterMatt84; When in a family setting, Sir has been known to limit my intake of food for punishment. If i had misbehaved, then He will pull me aside and tell me what i am not allowed to eat at the next meal, which can be quite a bit or not much depending on the infraction. If someone were to comment on the amount of food on my plate, i am to simply state that i am not feeling hungry. i've also been pinched inconspicously for missteps. Be well, and i wish you smooth sailing this summer, slave tora, devoted to Sir N 23 Apr 08, 4:36 PM His_mAlice US(TX), 4 yrs W/we are in the same situation as emma....i have a young daughter that W/we shelter from O/our lifestyle, and do much of the same things that they do. When my daughter is home, Master removes my collar, and it is replaced with a necklace (which looks like an eternity collar but doesnt lock and doesnt meet in the back), and orders turn into nice questions....and punishments are administered after bedtime for baby....and very quietly. It makes for much fear of knowing you are in trouble, and having to wait sometimes a very long time to receive punishment. i hate knowing i'm in trouble and not knowing when the punishment will come. Perhaps that's why He does it. hehe Good luck, nadia and Matt! If either of Y/you want to memo me i'd be glad to share more. "Despite all my rage, I am still just a rat in a cage"