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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "appropriate sexual behavior?" appropriate sexual behavior? (9) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board (moved from Internal Enslavement). Wed 2 Apr 08, 11:58 PM 741-498-880 4 yrs So, what is deemed appropriate for a slave? In general, do You (your master) like when sex is initiated by the slave? Is there certain ways you require it to happen if the slave initiates sex? (I am just curious, I was thinking about this earlier today and thought it would make an interesting topic.) 3 Apr 08, 3:11 AM ravenkaldera US(MA), 6 yrs I like it when my slave initiates sex. It shows desire on his part. I like feeling desired. I also don't have any gender-stereotype issues with who should or should not initiate sex (obviously). However, the rule is that if he does it, he should do it with no expectations or assumptions. I may choose to take him up on it, or I may not. Actually, there is an enormous privilege in being able to consider a come-on, and say not with no emotional repercussions - no upset, down-at-the-mouth partner who feels rejected or unattractive or had their heart set on it and is now going to go off and be sad or angry. To be able to say, "How sweet that you want me ... but I'm busy now. Maybe another time," and go back to my work, and not have to worry ... that is not something that I can do with egalitarian lovers. So the rule is that he is to do it occasionally, but not get invested in it going anywhere. -Raven Kaldera -If you're in charge, it's all on your head. If it's not all on your head, then you're not really in charge. 3 Apr 08, 3:18 AM dorothy US, 4 yrs Y! I am sure that this i viewed as an inappropriate response, but that is hot. I love coming on to Master knowing that He can accept or reject at His whim. After all, this life IS all about His pleasure, right? His property, His body, His mind. 3 Apr 08, 11:22 AM masterfiremaam US(WV), 5 yrs ravenkaldera wrote: I like it when my slave initiates sex. It shows desire on his part. I like feeling desired. I also don't have any gender-stereotype issues with who should or should not initiate sex (obviously). However, the rule is that if he does it, he should do it with no expectations or assumptions. I may choose to take him up on it, or I may not. Actually, there is an enormous privilege in being able to consider a come-on, and say not with no emotional repercussions - no upset, down-at-the-mouth partner who feels rejected or unattractive or had their heart set on it and is now going to go off and be sad or angry. To be able to say, "How sweet that you want me ... but I'm busy now. Maybe another time," and go back to my work, and not have to worry ... that is not something that I can do with egalitarian lovers. So the rule is that he is to do it occasionally, but not get invested in it going anywhere. -Raven Kaldera Thank you for saving me all that typing! LOL *ditto on Raven* Master Fire "Be excellent to each other." - Bill and Ted *air guitar* 4 Apr 08, 3:46 PM NocturnalDeviant 4 yrs I am of the opinion that a slave should know when their Master/Mistress needs sexual relief and should initiate things when the situation arises. They should also be aware that their Master/Mistress will also initiate things when they so desire it. This has led to some interesting discussions with mouse as she only likes sex at night when we go to bed and even then I normally end up having to initiate things. I am one these people who will have sex at anytime of the day or night but when I raise the issue mouse says thats she is too busy with other things that she needs to do for me or if its on a day when we have Judo then she will not partake in any form of sexual activity before Judo as she does like to smell like she has had sex when she goes on the mat. Don't get me wrong, mouse is a wonderful slave and she does lives to serve but serving me sexually does not seem to be high on her list of priorities. 4 Apr 08, 6:28 PM 470-772-848 UK, 4 yrs I dont usually initiate what happens between Master and I, he knows I desire him regardless. However one morning I did initiate giving him pleasure. We had just both woke and I craweled under the covers to give him some pleasure, he asked if I had been given permission and I said no, but that I wanted to give him pleasure and that some subs were actually required to do this to their Masters on waking I was allowed to carry on. jxx 23 Apr 08, 5:38 AM Tragopan US(CA), 4 yrs Yes, I like it when my slave initiates sex, just as I like it when she is attentive to my desires in the rest of the workday. The fundamental basis of our M/s relationship is sexual tension, so of course she should serve me in this way - initiating sex on occasion is a delightful change of pace. I imagine many Masters appreciate un-commanded tasks the slave does - such as bringing a cup of tea when he is occupied with other work. Such things show that the slave is attentive, and serves the Master well. A slave that requires a command to do every little thing would be a bit tiresome, at times. I hope slaves will be encouraged by the responses to this thread. I can't speak for other Masters, but think it is fine for a slave to intiate sex, as long as she will accept a "Not now, I'm busy" with good grace, as Raven mentioned. --Tragopan 23 Apr 08, 7:54 PM Mistress_Tiara 5 yrs I have no problem with My boy initiating sex, or sexual acts. he sometimes wakes Me up with his head under the covers which is quite a delightful start to the day ~*Mistress Tiara*~ 24 Apr 08, 5:20 AM 367-600-155 US(IN), 4 yrs Y! I know that when I am with Master LT he likes it when I start tro sexually play with him. But, like some of the other masters have said,if Master LT is busy,and he says "Not right now." I know to quit. Most of the time he allows it because I am serving him. My favorite thing is to wake him up by playing and sucking on him. 26 Apr 08, 5:44 AM Kristan US(TX), 5 yrs If I want to be used sexually, and I do want to be used... often... then it's not just a matter of initiating it. It's also appropriate to show via my body language that I am a needy slut.