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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "Finding Your Master On TSR" 1 2 Finding Your Master On TSR (16) This post is on the Other Topics web board. 21 Feb 08, 4:55 AM Rolling_Wildheart 6 yrs submissiveheart wrote: 455-162-329 wrote: masterfiremaam wrote: MasterJRC wrote: To any that are new, if you ever hear that it's "either my way or the highway" take the highway. I don't fully agree with this. I understand the intent behind what you've said; slaves don't have to submit or surrender to that which will damage them nor do they have to obey any and every person who comes along. However, our lifestyle is based on the Master calling the shots. For me, it IS my way or the highway. This is the core of obedience. I do, however, feel that slaves ALWAYS have a choice: to obey or not. There are consequences to both choices. I also practice patience because I often see that the slave just isn't yet mentally or emotionally capable of giving me what I want. Master Fire I read this more as pointing out that it's a problem when a dominant constantly threatens a slave with release if they don't do what they want. There are better motivators and while I do like to scare myself with 'he can find a better slave if I start slacking' I don't think it would bode well for my trust (or respect for his methods) if that was shoved in my face constantly. These are all good points because M/s is based on doing what your M wants but it is nice to know that you won't be abandoned if you fail to "act slave-like." Ick. I hate those words. Enslavement is scarey and it is nice to know that you will have support and acceptance if you fail--not ejection. This may just be Me, but I don't look at screw-ups or backslides as failures. They are just what they are, screw-ups and backslides. The only thing that I consider failure is giving up. Truly saying, and meaning, "I can't do this. I want out. It's too hard". THAT is failure. As long as the will to keep going exists, there is no failure, just bumps in the road of development. Wildheart Your suffering will be legendary, even in Hell - Pinhead from Hellraiser II 21 Feb 08, 2:09 PM Damocles US, 4 yrs To the OP, I have met several people via various online services over the years. In my experience, if you connect strongly in email and IM, exchange pics and real life info, are brutally honest with each other, and generally don't hold back what you really think, it is a spectacularly good way to meet. By the time you are actually face to face you have already exposed more about your selves than most people would ever expose to their therapist, much less on a typical first date. You have both already established that you want it to work and you know what drives each other sexually and otherwise. Thus far, I have never had online chemistry (hot or cold) that did not translate in person. Often we would simply end up being friends. And that's a good thing too. Being Dom, I've had less concerns about personal safety. I can't offer much there except to echo other's advice and say there is no such thing as too much safety for a first time meeting. If it's good, there will be plenty of time for danger later. Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you. 23 Feb 08, 5:56 PM Outlaw US(OK), 4 yrs masterfiremaam wrote: MasterJRC wrote: To any that are new, if you ever hear that it's "either my way or the highway" take the highway. I don't fully agree with this. I understand the intent behind what you've said; slaves don't have to submit or surrender to that which will damage them nor do they have to obey any and every person who comes along. However, our lifestyle is based on the Master calling the shots. For me, it IS my way or the highway. This is the core of obedience. I do, however, feel that slaves ALWAYS have a choice: to obey or not. There are consequences to both choices. I also practice patience because I often see that the slave just isn't yet mentally or emotionally capable of giving me what I want. Master Fire This is a first meeting. It is not an acepptance of a collar (training or otherwise). That being said, I feel that Until one is Owned or Considered to be Owned, the slave is not stripped of any rights and is free to do as they please and any M type that thinks that its "my way or the highway" before the other person has submitted is wrong. Also, in the begining, If the M type makes a statement to the effect of...."If we take this relationship further", Things will be as I want them. It will be my way or the highway....that is another story because the M type has left the s type an out with the statement,...."If we take this relationship further". To me by making the statement in this way it is telling the s type what the M type is expecting and the s type has the choice to follow or leave without any consequences. Be Careful Out There, Outlaw As my Dad always said......"If it has Tits or Tires, somewhere down the road you'll have problems with it". 28 May 08, 1:40 AM jewel_1010 US(MI), 4 yrs Y! Thank you, all of you for your posts on this issue. Just having been released it brings me comfort that someday I might find the right One, and may be fortunate to find Him here. jewel 28 May 08, 8:52 AM Quiet_Master UK, 4 yrs Having recently joined here I have noticed one irritating thing. I have been contacted by 3 slaves whose first words were "Master". When I told them not to call me that as I am only called Master by the slave that I collar they got rather miffed to say the least. 28 May 08, 1:11 PM anjuli UK, 4 yrs Quiet_Master wrote: Having recently joined here I have noticed one irritating thing. I have been contacted by 3 slaves whose first words were "Master". When I told them not to call me that as I am only called Master by the slave that I collar they got rather miffed to say the least. Sorry I should have added a note here. I hope you don't mind, I quoted your post in a new thread... http://www.seekdiscipline.com/boards/onlinebdsm/... ... because I thought people might find the question interesting but not necessarily find it here on D/s Events in thread about finding your master on TSR. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~