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puddles wrote:
<snip> It's the only site that really addresses rl IE and TPE relationships.
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My first reaction to this thread was actually... 'and what are we... chopped liver?' or alternatively ... 'That would be aside from... um... TSR? Except that here you're not told you are not a 'real slave/Master' if you don't fit a very narrow, prescribed definition given by one person?' Sandbox was the word that sprang to mind.
And I am sure that no-one intends any disrespect to Tanos, but he is the very model of honour to hold his peace as he did. I, on the other hand, have no admin 'impartiality'
role pressures to hold me back and I think someone should say what needs saying here.
But I will try to put together a thoughtful and constructive response because I think it's important that all subs, particularly new ones who are exploring and learning - and longing! - think carefully about what they are reading - whereever that may be.
I am not criticising anyone on the thread, so please don't think I am. I have some thoughts for you to consider, some advice, because I would like to see others new to the lifestyle, and not-so-new but still seeking, safe and un-bedazzled by false prophets.
So honestly? It's a good idea to read all sorts but also to avoid falling under the spell of 'discovering' that you are one of a tiny elite because you pass the test of being a real slave and can say, no, I am not one of those who has to be sent away to an inferior site to role-play or fantasise because I am special, I agree with everything this person says.
Please note, I do not know the owner of this site and do not assume his intentions are bad! But I do think you should question everything and not accept as gospel all the ideas of anyone you don't know and trust.
Some of the questions you should perhaps ask:- What is the motivation for a site in which the person who runs it decides who is and is not a part of the club / what is and is not allowed / what can be debated / what is real and what is not? Are questions and challenges given a forum for discussion? Are questions and challenges welcomed and met with reasoned thought and argument or are they met with dogma or dismissed as making me 'not real'? What does that remind you of elsewhere in life?
There are thousands of us (M/s partners, I mean) out here who are intelligent, real people in 24/7 M/s relationships who are perfectly REAL but who decide for ourselves what the boundaries of our worlds and relationships are, thanks. There really is no 'one true way'.
My advice is to read critically. No matter how much you desire to find a 'real' Master who will not disappoint you. Use your discrimination, use your reading to learn and grow, not to errect artificial boundaries for yourself.
Remember, when you do find HIM, HE will decide what is and isn't real - not the owner of any website! (or you for that matter!  )
Incidentally, I met my Master on alt.com. Which I am sure makes us second-class citizens on RLSlavery but I can assure you that our life is no fantasy. By all means, use it (and everything else you can find) as a resource, read and learn all you can, but keep your faculties around you, your radar sharpened for snake oil salesmen and, above all, keep an open mind.
I know this post is probably not what you wanted but I hope it will be read in the spirit in which it is intended. Take great care out there, there are too many people ready to draw in unwary subs who are full of desire and longing to be free. (LOL! Or perhaps that should be NOT free! I do love these contradictions! )
Look after yourself until you are sure you have found someone who you can trust to do it for you and be happy.
anjuli
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*** Noli me tangere, for Caesar's I am. ***
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