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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "Long Distance??" Long Distance?? (4) This post is on the Other Topics web board. Thu 18 Oct 07, 10:47 AM S_Kitten UK, 4 yrs I was just wondering how many Master/Slave relationships are long distance and how many of you do this long distance. Me and my master are about 3 hours away and can only see each other about once a month, so would anyone be able to give me tips as a slave about how to be a good slave, and tips to my Master about how to train me long distance, and just any other general advice that may be helpful. Thank you Kitten Masters little Kitten. I serve to please 19 Oct 07, 3:17 AM 424-902-765 US, 4 yrs i lived about an hour and a half from ex Master. it was not easy. but Master use to give me assignments to work on during the week.. it was not easy though.. i missed little things.. i need vanilla aspects to my life.. i enjoy being with my new Master.. just curling up naked on the couch and watching a show.. or running errands with Him.. "When love cast me out, it was Cruelty that took pity on me" 21 Oct 07, 7:34 PM 138-558-760 US, 4 yrs Communication! That's the best advice that I can give you. My master and I have been together for about two and a half years and we have always lived about an hour apart (currently we are two hours). I know what helps me get through the loneliness/missing him part is knowing at certain times we get to talk to one another. For us, everyday on our lunch break we talk and then again before bed. Those two times are pretty much guaranteed talk time for us, but we don't limit ourselves to just that. Also, if there is some sort of vanilla aspects to your relationship, have date nights. Either watch your favorite tv shows, go to a movie, or whatever but do it “together”. Afterwards, discuss what you watched or did. I know it helps me a lot just to feel as if we are doing something together. Something that I am currently struggling with but trying to do something about, is make sure you have friends or family that you can hang out or engage in some activity that you enjoy. Keeping busy helps to keep your mind off of feeling lonely or missing your master. As for being a good slave. I don't really have any exact advice for that other then to follow the rules and guideline set up in your relationship. Be honest with your feelings and tell him how you feel. I know what has helped me is having a schedule of daily activities that I must complete. Mine mostly consists of wake-up times and bedtimes, daily exercises, cleaning my apartment and stuff along that line. So maybe ask your master if he can incorporate something like that. I hope that helps. 18 Nov 07, 11:37 PM Master_David1965 US(CA), 5 yrs S_Kitten wrote: Long Distance?? I was just wondering how many Master/Slave relationships are long distance and how many of you do this long distance. Me and my master are about 3 hours away and can only see each other about once a month, so would anyone be able to give me tips as a slave about how to be a good slave, and tips to my Master about how to train me long distance, and just any other general advice that may be helpful. Thank you Kitten My pet and I live about 2,000 miles apart, and although W/we are no longer "technically" together, W/we still talk every day, several times a day. W/we have known each other over a year, and in that time W/we have both grown, matured, and become very important parts of E/each O/other's lives. W/we are very close friends. Dare I say "best" friends, as odd as that sounds in an M/s dynamic. E/everyone who has read My posts knows how much pet means to Me. Recently, there was an incident that showed Me just how important I am to pet. I won't go into specific details, but suffice it to say I did something very stupid which nearly cost Me My life. My pet stayed up on the phone with Me all night, talking with Me, helping Me, guiding Me, basically ensuring My safety. Without her, I feel I would either be in the hospital, or the morgue. pet saved My life, and for that I am forever grateful. But anyway, I didn't mean to hijack the thread. Back to the OP's topic: how do you be a good slave? Be honest with your Master in all you say and do. When Y/you aren't together, He has to trust you're behaving in a manner He sees fit. Likewise, you have to trust He has your best interests at heart in how He trains you and what orders He gives. Trust, mutual respect and communication are absolutely essential. So yes, long distance relationships can work. They take a lot of time, patience and communication. Don't tell Me what I can't do. Instead, show Me what is available to Me and I will embrace all that I can with all that I have. 19 Nov 07, 9:06 PM Masters_lena CA, 4 yrs Y! W/we are a 2 hour plane ride from each other...and currently spend 7-10 days together each month. the distance has always been a bit of an issue of course, but the more our relationship deepens, the more i feel separated from Him. W/we speak on the phone every night...sometimes for hours or sometimes only to share news of the day and say goodnight (i work shiftwork and sometimes dont get home till 1130pm) i find that after a visit with Him, i miss Him like crazy, but then to cope with that i pull back a bit emotionally...we seem to experience subdrop and Topdrop...and it is hard on us...hard on me... tasks always help...writing in my journal...doing the little things He tells me to do during the day or week...keeping Him in mind during the course of the day and thinking about whether or not my actions would be pleasing to HIm...and of course, speaking with Him every night... im here with Him now and spent the weekend with Him constantly...it was heaven...He is at work now and will be home in a few hours...but i already find myself feeling sad about going home in a few days... long distance is hard, but it can work if you try!!