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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "accidentally outed... help!" 1 2 accidentally outed... help! (17) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 27 Aug 07, 5:29 AM missey US, 5 yrs Y! Be honest....thats what i did with my foster daughters. They where both very understanding and interested in what the lifestyle was all about. One was 18 and the other was 19 at that time. Funny thing....one is now Domme and the other was a sub. Honor your daughter with the truth my dear. missey Just a girl... 28 Aug 07, 12:00 PM shornIvory US, 6 yrs shorn must disagree with the abvoe. Being 'outed' to a daughter or other close relative carrys a very different weight, than to be outed to a bank teller. Honesty is the only thing to do, silence is no longer an alternative. shorn was outed deliberately to her daughter. Friends, who knew what shorn is, decided shorn had shorn's head in the ground (they used the word ass). shorn's daughter knew what shorn was, a slave - owned property, and shorn was pretending shorn wasn't. This was not making the relationship better because shorn has always been honest with this girl. shorn almost didn't invite shorn's daughter to shorn's wedding because of fear of the daughter not approving. Fortunately Mommy held a gun to shorn's head and made shorn see reality. There was no way shorn could prevent the daughter from knowing about the new wife, and shorn should be open from the begining. shorn's daughter was shorn's Maid of honor and proud of it and is a good friend with Ebony. During the school year they share an apartment as living here and getting into New York is a pain. The daughter may choose to not ask, but if she does you owe it to yourself to be honest with her. shorn assumes the girl is 'of age' of course, there is no requirement to be suicidal about it. shorn beneath shorn's Master's feet 28 Aug 07, 6:27 PM 173-682-895 US(NY), 5 yrs i also agree that honesty is the way to go. my children (ages 14, 15 & 17) know that i am my Husband's property. They hear me call Him Master. They know i follow His directions. i also happen to be Pagan, and they know that, too. Do they know the intimate details of my sex life? Of course not. They do not NEED to know. What they DO need to know, and they do, is that this lifestyle makes their mom happier than she has ever been, and that this is a good thing for her! That is what is important here, imho. Good luck to you! Y/you are never more alive as when Y/you are at risk. Master's ~one~ 30 Aug 07, 6:15 AM 957-741-787 US, 6 yrs Personally, I'm for the proactive approach. It's been a couple days, she hasn't come to you...go to her! Pretending that it didn't happen is just like lying in a lot of ways; it sends the same message: I'm ashamed of how I live my life. You don't have to volunteer information that she may or may not want...but you can do the whole "I know what happened the other day was a bit unusual, and I was wondering if it was something that you'd like to talk about, or if you had any questions for me?" You said that you promptly rushed off with your daughter from the scene...it could very well be that your daughter feels that you're embarrassed by what happened and doesn't want to make that worse for you. Or it could be that she feels embarrassed for you! Either way, it's something that you should probably deal with. Your daughter's friend is a Pagan, so obviously you've raised your daughter to be open-minded and accepting of people who don't necessarily share the views of the status quo, regardless of whether she personally agrees with those views. In the end, chances are that once she sees and understands that this is what makes YOU happy, then she'll be fine with it! She's your daughter. She loves you. Talk to her. seven Simply a humble, unowned girl. (formerly sakura) 31 Aug 07, 11:02 AM DomainRuler US, 5 yrs Y! 173-682-895 wrote: i also agree that honesty is the way to go. my children (ages 14, 15 & 17) know that i am my Husband's property. They hear me call Him Master. They know i follow His directions. i also happen to be Pagan, and they know that, too. Do they know the intimate details of my sex life? Of course not. They do not NEED to know. What they DO need to know, and they do, is that this lifestyle makes their mom happier than she has ever been, and that this is a good thing for her! That is what is important here, imho. Good luck to you! I totally agree. Maybe when the kids are little they do not need to know but once they are older (teenagers) if it comes up or there are questions then they should be told. You cannot and should not shelter them from the world. The world will not be as forgiving and you will not always be there with them. You once had your kids believing in Santa Claus but had to eventually tell them that he isn't real. This is very similar. 2 Sep 07, 11:42 AM Sgiandubhs_ceilidh US, 5 yrs Y! Santa is not real! NOOOOOOOOOOO! Love without rules. ceilidh 2 Sep 07, 10:21 PM gipsydelight UK, 7 yrs fuzzy, There was a strong chance that i would be outed to my adult daughter a few months ago, by a malicious person on the scene, so i took gentle steps to tell my daughter all about my lifestyle. First of all i told her about the Torture Garden birthday bash that i had attended a few weeks before, the clothes people wore there, the dance floor and the burlesque acts and demos. She was interested, and she had been brought up in a house where that type of fetish imagery prevailed which was a good starting point, but may not be everyoneīs. i then took her to the Torture Garden for a club night. It was quite a gentle springboard, because itīs mainly a dance club. We talked about things we had seen and we talked a lot more over the next few days in which time i gradually told her everything. It was a great releif and a weight off my mind. It also helped her understand me too and itīs brought us a lot closer. ihope you find a way to talk to your daughter about this because it is good if you donīt have to cover up and hide the most important part of your relationship with your Master. karolina