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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "so hard for the young" 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 so hard for the young (65) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 10 Apr 08, 7:36 AM ChaosxandxSeduction US(CA), 5 yrs Y! mercxi wrote: so hard for the young I am a 22 yr old dom from ny and I am curious as to why it is sooooo hard for us young males sub or dom to find a sub/slave/mistress? Alot of women out there prefer older men when it comes to doms, more experiance, they know more about it, and they are good at it. Myself I prefer young Masters about my age. (20+) Because of the fact that I just cant bring myself to be with a man the same age as my father. It weirds me out. So yes. I get a lot of shitty Masters, alot of fakes, and assholes who dont know what they are doing, but I keep on trying, and one day I might find the Master that is right for me...although by then I might be much old and my point is therefore mute. Lmao! "Yes Master, Pet will be good, Promise." 6 Sep 08, 8:26 PM Dreamshaper US(FL), 3 yrs 160-863-511 wrote: Master3294 wrote: There is one thing to beware of when working with a young slave. Always dig into the family background, if they seem a little to eager. I have read the profile of a couple of young slaves and it very obvious that they have come a family where they had been abused most of there lifes. I fail to see why this is relevant? What difference should it make about a slaves past whether they have been abused or not? Surely it is irrelevant. In my mind, as long as a slave is happy and content in serving a master, hasn't been forced into it, and is looked after how any other slave should be, then it doesn't matter about their past? They are doing what is making them feel good. Who is to say whether it is right or wrong that they are entering this type of lifestyle? We all have pasts, good or bad. But they make us who we are today. With reference to the question; I think it is harder for younger Doms/Masters because they are often not the most tactile people. Older D/M generally have more experience in understanding the mentality of slaves and therefore may find it easier to communicate with them and strike up a relationship. It could also be down to slaves personal choice. Many (not all) slaves feel more dominated by an older man as they feel more vulnerable to them (in a good way), and the same effect may not be had if the D/M is the same age or younger than the slave. However I think it is more down to personal taste; and consequently there are slaves out there who are looking for younger D/M. That said, there are of course some great younger D/M's out there and equally some obnoxious older ones Well that's my personal take on it all anyway, Girl xx Relevant.........extremely, you being young probably cannot understand when one person (slave) puts her whole self in the hands of another (Master) that doesn't by the way know she has been punished since very early childhood by being locked in a small closet for hours or days (yes folks it does happen) gets angry with his slave for disobedience, shuts her in a dark broom closet until his anger subsides and can't understand why she has injured herself because of freaking out. Not something planned, just ghosts from the forgotten past. A Master/Mistress/Dom/Owner, should always know what material he is working with to make the best product he can. And this understanding comes with (I hate to say it) with age. Master Fred Alcohol is not the answer, it just makes you forget the question. 6 Sep 08, 9:07 PM Blush4Him US, 4 yrs MasterFred wrote: 160-863-511 wrote: Master3294 wrote: There is one thing to beware of when working with a young slave. Always dig into the family background, if they seem a little to eager. I have read the profile of a couple of young slaves and it very obvious that they have come a family where they had been abused most of there lifes. I fail to see why this is relevant? What difference should it make about a slaves past whether they have been abused or not? Surely it is irrelevant. In my mind, as long as a slave is happy and content in serving a master, hasn't been forced into it, and is looked after how any other slave should be, then it doesn't matter about their past? They are doing what is making them feel good. Who is to say whether it is right or wrong that they are entering this type of lifestyle? We all have pasts, good or bad. But they make us who we are today. With reference to the question; I think it is harder for younger Doms/Masters because they are often not the most tactile people. Older D/M generally have more experience in understanding the mentality of slaves and therefore may find it easier to communicate with them and strike up a relationship. It could also be down to slaves personal choice. Many (not all) slaves feel more dominated by an older man as they feel more vulnerable to them (in a good way), and the same effect may not be had if the D/M is the same age or younger than the slave. However I think it is more down to personal taste; and consequently there are slaves out there who are looking for younger D/M. That said, there are of course some great younger D/M's out there and equally some obnoxious older ones Well that's my personal take on it all anyway, Girl xx Relevant.........extremely, you being young probably cannot understand when one person (slave) puts her whole self in the hands of another (Master) that doesn't by the way know she has been punished since very early childhood by being locked in a small closet for hours or days (yes folks it does happen) gets angry with his slave for disobedience, shuts her in a dark broom closet until his anger subsides and can't understand why she has injured herself because of freaking out. Not something planned, just ghosts from the forgotten past. A Master/Mistress/Dom/Owner, should always know what material he is working with to make the best product he can. And this understanding comes with (I hate to say it) with age. Master Fred I also am trying to figure out the relevance. Are you saying that only younger slaves have issues with abuse? Or are you saying that older doms are more likely to take the time to determine those issues? Really. I've read this three times and still - it does not make sense to me. Oh! And I'm 42 btw - so I *do* understand the idea that people have past issues that need to be addressed. I'm just trying to figure out the relevance to *this* thread. I have yet to give my consent to being slashed! 8 Sep 08, 4:58 AM Nini_DarkStar 3 yrs Honestly, I think it's easier to try to find someone you care about (girlfriend, boyfriend whatever) and then either see if they're into it or slowly coax them into it (which is very possible if you have patience). I do agree that most people aren't ready for a commitment, as well, though that can happen at any age. Mostly, I think it's experience. The more experience the person has had the more likely they'll be to want a D/s or M/s relationship, otherwise they're nervous or don't know what to do. David-Sama's Tamed Lioness David-Sama acknowledges that I am still a person, and still have opinions, so though I am his Slave, I still have a "me/I". Edited 8 Sep 08, 5:00 AM by Nini_DarkStar 8 Sep 08, 2:50 PM anjuli UK, 4 yrs Blush4Him wrote: MasterFred wrote: 160-863-511 wrote: Master3294 wrote: There is one thing to beware of when working with a young slave. Always dig into the family background, if they seem a little to eager. I have read the profile of a couple of young slaves and it very obvious that they have come a family where they had been abused most of there lifes. I fail to see why this is relevant? What difference should it make about a slaves past whether they have been abused or not? Surely it is irrelevant. <snip> Relevant.........extremely, you being young probably cannot understand ... <snip> A Master/Mistress/Dom/Owner, should always know what material he is working with to make the best product he can. And this understanding comes with (I hate to say it) with age. I also am trying to figure out the relevance. Are you saying that only younger slaves have issues with abuse? Or are you saying that older doms are more likely to take the time to determine those issues? Really. I've read this three times and still - it does not make sense to me. <snip> Blush asks some good and pertinent questions. A younger dom is quite as able to learn the same lesson from the closet incident as an older one. And I wonder if Fred realises quite how patronising the bits I've put in bold sound? I'd expect more tact and empathy from a more experienced dom to be honest - more ability to win friends and influence people as it were -with careful phrasing. If the 20 year old dom is unable to work things out because he's young... does that mean you're an old fart because you've passed 50? Honestly, forgive the bluntness but it's rubbish. If he's intelligent and full of potential, he will learn. If he keeps the exercise of his dominance on a tight leash while he does so, he's perfectly capable of doing so safely too. If he starts out a feckless wanker, he'll still be one at 60! What he does have to do is get himself established in life. Get out of his parents' house and control, find a career he's good at, develop some emotional intelligence and get his shit in order. Until he is in full control of his own life and his own emotions, he is not ready to control someone else's. If he's got the wit and intelligence, he'll know what level of responsibility he's ready for and pace himself, not put anyone at risk. If he doesn't have that, he's potentially dangerous. Caveat emptor s-types! Choose carefully! anjuli ps. It was entirely relevant to query the para that led to this. It depends on what that particular poster was proposing you do with that information surely? Reject all slaves with abusive backgrounds or be forewarned and forearmed? It's not at all clear which the poster meant and the 19 year old sub spotted that whilst the older dom did not. ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ Edited 8 Sep 08, 2:51 PM by anjuli