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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "training a sub" training a sub (10) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sat 18 Nov 06, 10:22 PM tristanlonely US, 5 yrs Y! hey i have been lurking in the shadows of the web boards and this is my first time posting. But my question is about training a sub. I would appreciate any advice that people have to give. thanks i am lonely, i am searching, i wander the wild like a lone wolf searching for truth 18 Nov 06, 10:33 PM 962-414-607 5 yrs are you a dom or a sub?? and waht about training ur curious about? 19 Nov 06, 1:18 AM tristanlonely US, 5 yrs Y! dom, interested in advice on how to train a new sub to serve and do what i say. i am lonely, i am searching, i wander the wild like a lone wolf searching for truth 19 Nov 06, 1:21 AM Coyotes_kitten US(WI), 5 yrs tristanlonely wrote: dom, interested in advice on how to train a new sub to serve and do what i say. You might want to be a bit more specific then that. There are many different ways to train a sub/slave; just like there are many different kinds of D/s and M/s relationships. Do you already have a sub in mind? Or are you trying to figure this out before you have one? kitten (116-597-286) ~ Owned & collared by Master Coyote "It took a Coyote to tame this kitten." 19 Nov 06, 2:20 AM 724-400-220 5 yrs I've read your profile and with the lack of much detail, I really am wondering about you. Here is some general advice that may seem obvious: Read the docs on IE in Tanos' website and get a good idea on what it is you want to accomplish. Work on yourself first. Find out what it takes to be a good Master/Mistress(truth, honor, discipline, etc). You can't guide or teach what you don't know. Make sure you can handle the responsiblity of another person. The process of IE or even sub training leaves the sub incredibly vulnerable and dependant. And there is no ASPCA for unwanted human pets. Adversity tested, Master approved 19 Nov 06, 3:51 AM little_linnet US, 6 yrs tristanlonely wrote: But my question is about training a sub. First you get it to hold its breath ... Krista When I say I am going home, I mean I am going to where you are. Posting once a week: www.xanga.com/little_linnet 19 Nov 06, 5:07 AM 724-400-220 5 yrs little_linnet wrote: tristanlonely wrote: But my question is about training a sub. First you get it to hold its breath ... Krista Then you flood its tanks.... Adversity tested, Master approved 19 Nov 06, 5:35 AM tristanlonely US, 5 yrs Y! lol...i like the advice...now a revised version of the question. how do i get a sub to leave me alone? she wants me to be her master but i am not ready and she is not willing to accept that. i am lonely, i am searching, i wander the wild like a lone wolf searching for truth 19 Nov 06, 6:25 AM His_pet_kitty US, 5 yrs Y! tristanlonely wrote: she wants me to be her master but i am not ready and she is not willing to accept that. Well, it sounds like You have a problem then. See, the problem is this. M/s takes a LOT of work and total commitment from both ends, especially if the goal is TPE. It sounds like You've realised that this isn't for You, and that this isn't what You want right now, and she's either ready for more, or is wanting something else, and masking it under the guise of M/s. Time for a serious sit-down communication session. M/s and D/s are not things to be entered into lightly or half-cocked. There is a lot of potential damage to be done on both ends, and careful consideration of what Y/you both want from the relationship needs to be made to ascertain that those wants and needs are compatible. pet would suggest that You go sit and talk with Your sub, and try to get to the heart of whatever the issue really is, rather than take it at face value. ~ i run where daemons fear to stand, i dance unscathed within the sun, beneath His power is my freedom, within His darkness i am undone.~ (pet, 2006) pet 19 Nov 06, 8:30 AM Philipy 6 yrs tristanlonely wrote: lol...i like the advice...now a revised version of the question. how do i get a sub to leave me alone? she wants me to be her master but i am not ready and she is not willing to accept that. You might both want to read this thread, "Can a vanilla become a master?": http://www.slaveregister.com/boards/submission/1... Philip 19 Nov 06, 2:05 PM llamae US(MI), 5 yrs Philipy wrote: tristanlonely wrote: lol...i like the advice...now a revised version of the question. how do i get a sub to leave me alone? she wants me to be her master but i am not ready and she is not willing to accept that. You might both want to read this thread, "Can a vanilla become a master?": http://www.slaveregister.com/boards/submission/1... Philip That's a god place to go,lots of good comments there. Another good place, and i've put this up on several other places, is http://www.castlerealm.com It has a place for doms to read and figure things out. Another great source is the book Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns. Hope these help! lamae