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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Submission triggers - how do you flick the switch..." 1 2 3 Submission triggers - how do you flick the switch... (28) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 23 Apr 09, 4:35 AM kaitlyn 4 yrs Ya I've had that problem (a friend and I were just talking about it actually). We both agreed that it shorta starts to come automatically when we hear command statements. so frustrating 25 Apr 09, 6:59 AM 693-874-541 US(CA), 3 yrs I know what you mean I am by nature a very aggressive and assertive person. Some times it is very hard for me to just switch off my normal attitude and become a submissive that I want to be ... If you find an easy way please let me know! Master's pet Kitty 1 May 09, 5:41 PM newbie999 US, 3 yrs Ok I am new here and this is my first response.I am trying to learn this life style. I can relate to the busy woman thing.It is difficult to just change who you are on the outside, and then when talking with master on line feel like im acting like someone else. even though I know I am a submissisve person and really like this person but never get to see him. sometimes it seems like its just a game hes playing.I think seeing him would make it more real. 3 May 09, 1:33 AM 863-050-362 US, 3 yrs I am new to the site, tho not new to the life. My Dom/husband died last year and I am just now searching for another relationship. I must say I can relate to the topic at hand. For me, "flipping the switch" from my "outside" life to my "home" life was often difficult since my job requires that i be assertive and in control. But coming home, a hot bath, a command from my Dom, or His touch on my nipples sent me deep into subspace in a hurry. The keeping of some kind of ritual is most important, in my experience. 3 May 09, 1:04 PM 228-984-288 AU, 3 yrs Y! i have never thought about what triggers my submission but i think quite a few of the other answers pretty much sum it up for me. Master and i are together 24/7 and rarely apart but sometimes i do get too "big for my boots" and all it takes is that look a gentle tug at my collar and a reminder of my place. That usually sets us right again then i get a kiss on the forehead and a spank on my butt and sent to go about my bussiness. proudly owned by master wraith my soul friend and partner in this life and the next! 3 May 09, 11:37 PM slaveheatherleigh US(DE), 4 yrs lost_angel wrote: Submission triggers - how do you flick the switch... I am a very strong woman with a full life and running my own successful business means that I can not be in the least bit submissive during my everyday life. As a result sometimes I can find it very hard to let go and make the switch to willing submissive no matter how much I want to be. On quiet days when I have time to browse websites, read or simply to daydream, then my thoughts alone can shift me into a submissive mindset, but I am often very busy and so this doesn't happen. Being submissive for me is akin to feeling horny. OK, sometimes I just feel horny for no reason at all but other times, it's not that I don't want to fuck, its just that I don't much feel like it without a bit of persuasion I often get to the end of the day and I want nothing more than to submit, but I can't easily or quickly bring myself to that place. I need a trigger. Just as foreplay is a natural precursor to sex I need a trigger that acts as a way of me preparing mentally to become the submissive me. An action or instruction from Owner than will help disarm me, opening me up to the possibility of submitting to him. My Owner is as busy as I am and unfortunately, dare I say, a little less imaginative than me and so I am after ideas on how other masters handle this with their subs. Also to the subs out there - what are the triggers that work for you? Thanks xx I can fully understand where you are coming from. In my career I have always been in charge. But for me when I get home, being able to release all control is living again. I can let go of all the stress of the day and let my mind clear. I guess it is a matter of how you look at it. But like I said, coming home and releasing is living again. 4 May 09, 12:46 AM Pink_Slut_Storm US, 3 yrs Y! Mine is triggered by anal. Any type of anal stimulation naturally makes me submissive. My Master can just rub my tush and it will set me off. She also has a naturally aggressive personality with does it as well. I belong to Mistress Gina. I am her pink collared slave. 11 May 09, 1:25 AM 957-322-238 US, 3 yrs Like others here, i have a job that requires me to be in charge. What seems different about me is that i NEED to be submissive BECAUSE of the pressure of being in charge. When i leave work, it is with a clear sense of who i really am - the submissive me is allowed to finally come out after i leave the job behind. It is such a relief to be able to follow orders. While i am always working toward the singular purpose of pleasing my Master (for instance, by being successful at work), when i walk out of the office on my way to see Him i know i will be able to focus solely on Him in His presence and it is a joy. my Master actually reminds me not to be submissive at work!