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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "How did you meet your dom or sub?" 1 2 How did you meet your dom or sub? (11) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board (moved from Other Topics). Wed 13 Sep 06, 1:35 AM Pet_Suru US, 8 yrs I was curious to know how others met their doms or subs, I'm often fascinated by how other have met.... My story When I was 17 was collared by My first Mistress She taught me all I know and I was happy with her for 15 months. She went with me to gt my first tattoo, a small purpl pawprint, and she had told me " One day this tattoo will change your life". It really did, she died shortly there after and I decided I could never have another owner. I was brought back in a year or so later when I heard of The Fetish ball at the local Dungeon, My photographer decided, that since he had some really pretty things that I should go. He dressd me up in what he calls the hellfire dominatrix outfit, which is a black body suit, a white cut velvet poet's shirt complete with ruffly front my own black underbust corset, a black tuxedo jacket with tails, a black tophat with ribbon and black chiffon off the back, his killer heels (( which are actually 6 inch stilletto boots and a city stick (( a cane with a blade in it )) to help me walk (( I hate heels ACK !)) I went to spend an evening at the dungeon... I don't think I'll ever forget that night, I was mistaken for a dominatrix several times and shocked people when I said i was submissive. I remember meting my Master briefly, and his impression stuck with me... So later that night I eschewed my corset, hat boots and shirt to go around in just the body stocking. Later after I left I realized I'd left my corset so I was invited to the community night the next wednesday to pick it up, When I got there I put down the dish I brought for the potluck and walked around, feeling like I was coming hime again. The scents I had known with my Mistress were in the air and comforting to me. I talked with the others , but he kept catching my eye, His long hair and his eyes kept drawing my gaze. Finally he came over as I was sitting on one of the swinging tables just simply watching the goings on, and we really got to talking. I learned he was a little more than a year older and alot about him we talked about our intrests what we searched for in another person and such, at 11 the dungeon closed and we decided we wanted to keep talking, so we went to I-hop. At I-hop we discovered a mutual love for Anime and so thus decided to head back to his place to watch some. I do not think I might ever remember the anime , as all I was watching was him. I fell asleep as did he, I woke up in a strange room in a strange house with the most handsome man sleping next to me... I should've been scared or worried, but I just felt peaceful, like I'd found my place. We talked while he made me breakfast and he admitted what had drawn him to me, It was my pawprint tattoo. His personal animal is the wolf so he had ben drawn to me bcause of the pawprint, He had ben curious about it the night befor so I then told him the stories behinf that and my other tattoos. Well that day we hung out together just talking and getting to know eachother more. It was late and I suggested that mayb I should leave, so he could sleep for work, He asked me to stay again as he felt it was the right thing, i did as well so i stayed. I stayed for four days at his house before returning home to my own, I've never done anything like that in my life. It had me a bit nervous but the next day I returned to his house, and I have only spent two nights from him since. My family thinks I've known him for a while, they'd freak if I told thm the truth. About a week in he gave me a malachite and tigers eye necklace as my consideration collar, a month after that we had my formal collar made custom for me. When I look at my collar though it is a simple band of black leather with a silver medallion on it, on on side it has a highly stylized BDMS triskelle and on the othr a wolf. It's been four months since that night at the club, and as i look back at the things we've done and the troubles we've been through I realize that as we evolve in our relationship, and the stronger it gets th more I can see spending my life with Him... Since i was collared by Him, I feel more serene an at peace with the world, and I know He brings out the best in my ubmission to Him. Before Him I served with love and caring but not with my whole being, now with Him I serve completely I give everything and hold nothing back. I feel I at last have found the one who makes me whole, as does He... So tell me yours? Sorry for the long windedness... Those who walk in the footsteps of others often trip it's better to forge your own path... Owned Collared and Loved by Master Dax 13 Sep 06, 7:32 PM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! i met my Master online. i had spoken to Him breifly online, when i was still owned by my first Master and i was in the process of leaving. i sent Him a picture and then i forgot about Him. After i left my first Master, the lifestyle and all the people in it, were pushed to the back of my mind. About a year later, i decided to start looking for a Master, something part-time, but if it turned into more then so be it. Master Howard sent me an instant message saying that He remembered my picture and He even recalled O/our conversation. This honestly shocked me, but it got my attention. W/we chatted for a little over a month before meeting in real-time. W/we met on a Sunday evening in a medium sized Oklahoma town. W/we were suppost to meet for dinner, but everything closes at 6 o'clock on a Sunday so W/we ended up having fast food. i think i scared Him when i wanted to pay for my own part but He wouldn't let me. W/we had good conversation and He seemed harmless so i went back to the motel with Him. W/we had a very nice play-time and He respected all of my limits (During the first few meetings i had more limits then i do after i get to know Someone. For instance, i wouldn't submit to bondage on a first meeting. Now my Master and i don't worry about limits and such because W/we have like goals.). Over the next few months W/we visited each O/other's homes and found that W/we had a good connection. In October of 2003, He asked me to be His slave. i accepted. At that time W/we lived about 5 hours apart, so He would drive to see me every other weekened. Then in June of 2004 after i graduated college, W/we were able to live together. In November of 2004, W/we were married, in a short ceremony. W/we are waiting to have a big wedding with a bunch of family because my twin brother is over seas serving in the Army. It is important to me that my twin be there. Then in May of 2005 i recieved my ownership tattoo. i felt that with that tattoo, it symbolized, at least for me, that O/our relationship is going to be forever. best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 13 Sep 06, 10:44 PM Just_Angel US(CO), 5 yrs £ Y! i met Mistress Narcissa at one of the local clubs here in Nashville. i had heard all kinds of bad things about her, but i rarely listen to the gossip. She came in and introduced herself, so i decided to watch and form my own opinion of her. She is a switch and was in bottom space that night, so i didnt think of her as Dominant at all. A couple weeks later, i saw her again while i was helping set up for a party at that same club. The person running setup handed me a few jobs and told me to "see if Narcissa would help". So.. i spoke to her like i would speak to any submissive if i'm delegating authority. i handed her a stack of posters and said something like.. you can hang these up in the back. She looked me up and down and said "Excuse me?". The lady running setup was standing in the door laughing hysterically and i was a bit confused. She said, "oh, you havent met Narcissa". i looked back and said, "yeah.. i met her the other week". She explained to me that i had met her as a submissive. Narcissa looked back at me and asked if we wanted to try this again, and i asked her very politely if she would be willing to help hang posters. She agreed. The next weekend we played, and we were play partners for about 4 months before she officially claimed me. She says i put up a hell of a fight, lol. i'm not sure she even realizes how quickly i got attatched to her. "She paints her eyes as black as night now she pulls those shades down tight she gives a smile when the pain comes the pain's gonna make everything alright" ~Black Crows Mistress Narcissa's cherub 14 Sep 06, 1:09 AM sweetie_bird_RML BR, 6 yrs Y! i had no knowledge of BDSM previous to this year. cross my heart, wish to die its true! i had a very bad breakup on xmas last year, and i was deeply depressed, so i started looking for something new. looking into myself, i figured out i needed someone who would appreciate my childish spirit, my need of cute things and of course, my interest in clubbing and anime. most importantly, someone who would understand who i am and like it. i have tons of baggage, so thats really hard... i was in a couple s&m communities in orkut.com, and one of the related communities was one about bdsm... reading about Masters and slaves, i thought i would seek counseling... the first reply was from my Master! He liked my profile and webpages, i liked His profile, and a couple days later i was His. no, i had NO idea of what i was doing. at all. this all happened over 10.000 km away. i was in the amazon, He was in germany. a week after i was named, i had my nipples pierced, and shortly after, my clit hood. He sent me my first set of jewels and a plug not a long time after this. i surprised Him by slashing His initials into my left wrist. our emails and phone conversations were comforting rather than scary so i couldnt be happier when He ordered me to move 7000 km to São Paulo. i hated the place i was in, and He was moving back to Brazil anyway... i met Him on labor day, may 1st. it was my first whipping. i'm the type of masochist that self inflicts pain, so it was quite new. unfortunatelly, He has to travel a lot on business, so we spend weeks apart... those are the weeks i feel terrible. since i arrived He had my outer lips pierced and my lower belly tattooed with the word slave. last weekend i moved into His place... as soon as He returns from this trip, finally i will be really, trully 24/7. i can hardly wait for more training... (i have found, you can find happiness in slavery) Edited 14 Sep 06, 1:11 AM by sweetie_bird_RML 14 Sep 06, 7:44 AM 631-535-398 US, 6 yrs Y! When i was 15 or 16 years old i read the Gor series. i thought wouldn't it be great if something like that existed and had dreams of it for a long time and dreamed of being abducted and trained as a slave. In my vanilla relationships i tended to ask to be tied up and emotionally would do all i could to try and please my partner. Some of the men were weak and i ended up dominating them (was a major vaccuum and i could do it but i was never happy that way) or i was called crazy and made to think i was a bad sick person. After a very emotionally abusive relationship ended i was on my own for three years. Existing with my parents, it wasn't really living. i did things with my mom (who is like a best freind) and stayed around the house. i read and daydreamed. Finally i got sick of living like that and healed some from the emotional trauma (or so i thought) from my ex-fiance. i started doing a diabetic freindly weightloss class and counseling. i started trying to do more and lost some weight and decided i wanted to have sex again. i wasn't looking for a real relationship, basically a freind with benefits. i put an add up on a regular vanilla website. i looked around at other people in my area and talked to some online. i met this one guy who had just been about to take his down. He was in a serious open relationship where they both slept with others and was looking for kinky type sex (wow someone who liked over weight women and tying them up!!!!) And didn't want a real emotional attachement either. Freinds fine but neither really wanted more. Well after getting to know each other for quite awhile online and me almost falling prey to a predator in another country (long story not going into it). i met this guy and talked to Him. W/we were instant freinds and He sent me tons of websites and articles on BDSM i thought it was awesome, it just felt like wow where have these people been all my life. i've always been like that and told i was a freak and needed help for even thinkning that way. W/we started a very casual D/s relationship. W/we lived an hour drive away and would get together for rouwdy times in a hotel and then go home. With time (like only a month or two) i had fallen hopelessly in love with this perfect man who was everything i'd ever looked for in a man. His girlfreind/fiance and i met. W/we happen to be freinds but she is vanilla and not interested in this. At this point i almost wanted Him all to myself but the very beginning or the relationship that was the hard limit. Never ever even think that He'd ever leave her they are in love and have been together for over 7 years. Well i liked her and loved Him and wanted them both happy. Well now He loves me as well, so W/we are in a poly all living seperate relationship. He divides His time evenly between the two of us and i have been tattooed as His. This is the man i want to spend the rest of my life with. Recently W/we went through some major health problems (both of us, and several of our family members) and the relationship was strained at time from me needing/wanting more time with Him than three times a week. But i've realized i love this man, and who knows what the future holds. i will be His slave even though sometimes it is hard not to be able to do 24/7 (B/both of U/us have that as a goal) since W/we can't live together. But in a year or two W/we will be able to live together half time so i will do the best i am able. W/we will make it work, because with Him i have never been so happy in all my life since i was a little kid. The times i'm upset are because i'm not around Him enough. W/we have now been Master/slave for a year and 1/2. slave giolla 17 Sep 06, 6:55 AM masterofslaves23 US, 5 yrs Y! well lets see i met my Mistress alil over 6 months ago now online in a disability support group and i one day while talking to her said i had a few secerts i needed to tell her and her response was oh boy what so i said ok well i am into this type of lifestyle called bdsm and explained sorta what it was about and she said hmm sounds ok and we first started out as master slave but as of two weeks ago we realized that she is a way better dom then as a slave so now i am Mistress's lil bitch boy we also plan on getting married but are unsure of really how to do it cuz we want a small vanillia wedding but then we also wanna do some type of collaring gathering so any advice we can get is great. sincerely slave stefonze Mistress's bitch 17 Sep 06, 5:10 PM 902-660-194 US(PA), 6 yrs Hey everyone.. im back after a mega wicked bad virus attack, had to wipe the whole machine.. ugh. anyways, how we met..... Master was on leave from the Marine Corps & happened to have a little brother that was dating (eventually marrying, then divorcing) my best friend since kindergarden. lol, me & her never thought we would be related. anyways, my girlfriend had a party at her house, of course i was there & when her boyfriend showed up bringing his AMAZINGLY sexy Jarhead big brother, i melted. Some point during the party, He asked her to borrow a toothbrush because He wanted to kiss me & had beer breath *giggles* we kissed a bit, ended up erm...in bed (think He had control the moment He looked at me & as soon as He undid His pants, i knew damn well i didnt want to lose that lol) and sadly, He left for Cali to finish His service a few days later. Long story short, the next summer He came home for good. Called me the day He got back & all He said was... Im back home. I ran over His house as fast as i could, stayed that night & havent been away from His side since then...1988. He married me in 1992 & collared me last year. Funny part was my gram met Him when He was on leave & later told me He would be my husband.. i laughed thinking i would never see Him again. ps... He still makes me melt. the sting of His whip~ the welts from His crop~ the warmth of His kiss~ the click of the lock~ assures me i am His most cherished possession. 17 Sep 06, 7:06 PM 662-935-655 5 yrs Believe it or not, i met Papa Lou in a friend's winter solstice ritual/house-warming party, yet our primary activity together at first was CHURCH - but we were also married 10 years when he collared me, 3 years ago. it has improved our marriage by huge increments and smoothed out some rough spots, although many rough spots before that had been smoothed out by both of us getting proper medical care, believe it or not. And neither of us had realized how ill we were until it landed us on our butts! Let me tell you, this getting old stuff rots; however, it's better together! (GRIN) (and getting old is better than the alternative, i guess!) Nearly losing Master and then me i think helped U/us get down to who W/we were essentially - and lo and behold we were more compatible and not less compatible when we shared our "secret" fantasies. Someone mentioned a male slave's marriage/collaring to a Mistress - i'd be curious about this too. Master is a clergyperson in 2 religions and i in 1, but share his clergy status in the second - and also am a Wiccan Priestess from many, many, "moons" ago. So i'm interested in all forms of ceremonies, in case W/we or either of U/us are asked to perform such-like j/L Papa Lou'S OWN! 18 Sep 06, 2:09 PM 000-844-137 US, 7 yrs Y! i met Master long before there was any such thing as the internet or home computers. In the early 70's you actually had to go to an adult book store, buy a magazine, read the ads, write letters, forward the letters, and wait. If you were real lucky, you would receive an answer in a couple of weeks. Master and i met this way. After a couple of letters and numerous phone calls, we agreed to meet for dinner. He was extremely nice and very good looking, but i thought he might be a little old for me, i was in my 20's and He was in His 50's. We had a pleasant dinner at a nice place, talked awhile and went our ways. We talked on the phone several times the next couple of weeks and i agreed to come up and spend a weekend with Him. Our relationship began then, just getting together on weekends whenever we could, but my 24/7 enslavement didn't begin until almost 3 years later. Master was not the first one that i had written to or talked with, it had taken awhile to find the right one. 18 Sep 06, 7:56 PM Yarakot 6 yrs I met my owner in high school. (I was seventeen, he was fifteen.) My high school had a tower no one was allowed to enter. I was dying of curiosity to see what was up there and couldn't figure out where the back way or secret door was (there wasn't one) or figure out how to open the locked door. So I arranged to be adopted by a teacher so that I could do a special assignment on the history of the tower, necessitating many trips to the tower. Unfortunately, this also meant that I had to give a written report to the teacher weekly to show my progress. One day I walked into one of his classes to give him my latest progress report and saw this cute guy with a pile of books and a game. I said, "I play that too." He invited me to his gaming group. Within a few months we began dating if ditching class to lie on the grass and tell each other our sexual fantasies can be considered dating. (Actually, I was the only one ditching class. He didn't do that sort of thing.) Sex (and S&m) inevitably followed. Though we didn't have sex until nearly a year had passed since he wanted to be certain that everything was under control and that there were plans for every contingency. Nothing I tried to tempt him to sex worked until he was satisfied. (Have I mentioned that he lacks impulsiveness?) I became obsessed with him fairly quickly and used to follow him everywhere, arrange to meet him whenever possible, knock on his window late at night or early in the morning (which he opened to allow me to slip into his basement room and embrace him). I would wait hours for him to appear during icy Colorado winters while my hands turned numb and my lips blue. When he saw me he would bring me inside and warm my hands and face and then scold me for waiting for so long. But I desired him with a truly obsessive focus. When we saw The Secretary, it was so much like our early relationship that we both talked of nothing else for days. To this day, my owner thinks of obsessive hunger as an obvious pre-condition for someone who wants to be a slave. Our first attempt at M/s began a few years later when we moved out of our parent's homes. (Though bdsm play began just a few months after our first sexual encounter.) Carolyn Edited 18 Sep 06, 7:57 PM by Yarakot 18 Sep 06, 9:04 PM Michael_X UK, 6 yrs Hi, Pet_Suru wrote: I was curious to know how others met their doms or subs, I'm often fascinated by how other have met.... We met via a multi-user bbs in the 80's. We conversed via email and a chat facility for a while and, back in 1989, we met up for pizza. Our early email conversations mostly focussed on theology, scifi and technology although other topics came up including SM topics. Around that time I was using the bbs as a controlled place to experiment with coming out about my SM orientation. The results were interesting. At that time this was simply friendship as we were both in failing marriages. While we were attracted to each other our friendship was platonic. Eventually our marriages ended for reasons that had nothing to do with our friendship. We both dated other people for a while remaining close friends but there came a time when we slipped into a committed relationship to each other and have been happily together ever since. The early years of our relationship was never explicitly M/s in my mind but looked at retrospectively the dynamics were very much so. Michael. Next page