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	SD! : Web boards : Service : "Slaves With Disabilities?" 1 2 3 4 5 Slaves With Disabilities? (44) 27 Jul 06, 3:04 AM 631-535-398 US, 2 yrs  maid_maryanne wrote: Are there any slaves here like me (female) with disabilities? i have been waiting patiently for seven days to post and would like to know how you deal with your disability from day to day and any special allowences your Master makes for you. i have been legally deaf (80% in one ear, 65% in the other) since i was young and have worn two hearing aids my whole life. Because of this i also have a speech impairment. When i came to my Master i was depressed, angry with the world, confused and had been basically abused by two former Master's who couldn't deal with my problem. My new Master took away my hearing aids and plunged me into silence which is how i learned to calm down and learn patience. That may sound cruel to some but it worked for us. i don't have to worry about the rest of the world every minute of the day or what i'm missing and can focus completely on serving my Master. What works for you? i am becoming severely physically limited and have mental disability. The mental was diagnosed when i was 15 but i had it at least 3 to 4 years before that. i have Borderline Personality, (similar to bi-polar but with self harm), chronic depression, and mild Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). i am on Social Security Disability from this and now i am getting all new reasons for it as well. i have sleep apnea, insulin resistance (pre-diabetes type II), osteoarthritis, severe allergies, sinusitis (can't breathe through nose), TMJ (like lock jaw, fractured jaw) and obestiy. i am looking at being unable to walk soon if i can not loose some weight as my left knee is giving out. i have bone spurs and lots of cartalidge damage in it to the point where i cannot kneel, and walking much or bending over hurts my lower back, also very affected and my right shoulder has hampered my ability to carry things (i used to be very strong for a woman, and having to deal with not doing things for others and myself, like lift heavy objects has been humiliating and depressing.). Well with my weight they have been wanting to do stomach banding surgery but as i know some who have had this and have talked to nutritionists, this is a stop gag measure, it will ensure you can't eat well and you will loose some weight but if the habits, attitudes don't change within 5 years you will start to gain it back, also it can cause several diseases and nutrition problems for life. So first i am trying to diet with my Master helping me take it step by step, and have been prescribed diet pills. The problem is these have made my psychiatric meds totally useless. i am having a very severe bout of depression and am attempting to cope but keep getting suicidal. (my poor Master to deal with all this) Meanwhile, He has Spina Bfida from birth and is in a wheelchair, cannot move from the knees down and very limited thigh movement. Also having several other major medical problems at this time. W/we have to realize when either of U/us is having issues with the health and medical that some to lots of leeway has to be given. i may no longer kneel so now i do my arms together extended out toward Him palms up and eyes down with a bit of a bow. For the SM parts He has to be careful where He uses the canes and such. For bondage i have a problem with blood clots (blood clots way too easily and loss of circulation) so can't be tied tight at all. But in some ways He is the only reason i am still around. i have gotten extremely suicidal and found that i could not destroy His property. i can do light cutting but i realize that i no longer own this body but He does. i'm not really sure when it fully happened but i can't even do it if i have a knife in my hand to my throat, i can cut lightly but i can't do more which is different than i used to be. Also when i need the release of physical pain Him being able to pinch or crop or cut me has helped tremendously, and is tons safer than what i would do to myself. It works although it's hard, and W/we have to be even more concious of each O/other's moods and problems and limitations but i am happier than i have ever been in my life with Him (disregarding pills not working right now). i hope this answers your question about U/us, feel free to ask anything else you want. Sorry i tend to ramble slave giolla Master's pet 27 Jul 06, 3:16 AM 142-419-736 US, 2 yrs£ i am disabled submissive, lol and this will sound so weird but i am physically and mentally disabled some way. i have depression and slow in some things due to abusive childhood. My other is due to tyroid and graves desease and arthrytis. Master is so understanding and is so good to me. When He asks or is about to ask me to do something in kneeling etc will always ask me first how i feel today. Helps so much. And im so thankful.....mary 27 Jul 06, 5:55 AM 631-535-398 US, 2 yrs  maid_maryanne wrote: *snip* Are there any slaves here with disabilities? What works for you? *snip* here are some sites that deal with disabled people and bdsm. Hopefully some of these will help, this girl finding these found several that taught her some new things. http://www.steel-door.com/Handicapped.html http://www.bdsm-education.com/handicap.html http://www.seekers.org.uk/Living%20Ds%20Section.... http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ryndisa... http://truetales.org/writings/peterson0508disabi... slave giolla Master Rolling Wildheat's slut 29 Jul 06, 10:54 AM carissaLT GR, 3 yrs  maid_maryanne wrote: Are there any slaves here like me (female) with disabilities? i have been waiting patiently for seven days to post and would like to know how you deal with your disability from day to day and any special allowences your Master makes for you. i have been legally deaf (80% in one ear, 65% in the other) since i was young and have worn two hearing aids my whole life. Because of this i also have a speech impairment. When i came to my Master i was depressed, angry with the world, confused and had been basically abused by two former Master's who couldn't deal with my problem. My new Master took away my hearing aids and plunged me into silence which is how i learned to calm down and learn patience. That may sound cruel to some but it worked for us. i don't have to worry about the rest of the world every minute of the day or what i'm missing and can focus completely on serving my Master. What works for you? Hello maid Maryanne, More than 10 years ago I was in a motorcycle accident. Over the years and not right away I realized I had a serious cervical injury. Doctors called it severe and deteriorating. Because of my neck's condition there are many things I am not supposed to do or simply can't do. For example I must not lower my head. I can not look up for too long. I have approximately 4-5 painkiller shots per month. My right arm loses its strength and hurts more and more. I can not lift much weight and I certainly can not be tied in awkward positions for too long or at all. Finally I can not worship Master's feet for too long although it is something He enjoys very much. All this made me feel useless as a slave and frustrated me a lot. However Master never stopped ordering me to do things although He lessen the time of each duty, task etc to a safety limit He determined over the time I am His property. Master made me realize that its not the limitations that count but the sincere effort to please and perform your duties in the best of your abilities. Master is pleased with my efforts and reminds me the there is always room for more, perhaps in other areas and paths. He also finds ways to exploit the efforts and turn them in to results. I will have an operation in about two years from now. It's a new Procedure and they say it provides major benefits and recovery. I always wish I could do more but until the day i will be able to do more I will continue to do my very best within my limitations. Edited 29 Jul 06, 10:56 AM by carissaLT 30 Jul 06, 9:04 PM little_linnet US, 3 yrs  TheFamily wrote: Life with disability is more straightforward for dominants - the most famous probably being Jon Jacobs who was a prevalent poster on early internet forums, co-author of 'Different Loving' and quite a character. He died a while back still trying to type while blind, wheelchair bound and in financial difficulties, but still a capable owner of a loving slave and mentor to many who respected him. I don't feel that this is the place or time for personal opinions about Jon to be shared or gossip to be passed on, so I struggled with the idea of replying here and I hope no one will take what I say in those lights. In the end I think it's entirely relevant to the topic and so I'm going to point out that to my knowledge by the time Jon died his personal life and his relationship with his slave were both in very bad shape. I know for a fact that both were severely deteriorating 3 or 4 years before his death. It seems to me like his disabilities had a lot to do with that. Of course, that doesn't say anything conclusive about dominants with disabilities in general. Krista Under my thumb / The sweetest / Pet in the world www.xanga.com/proudflesh 24 Aug 06, 8:42 PM masterofslaves23 US, 2 yrs  hi this is master jason here and i glad your master did so because i know myself as a master who is disabled as well as his slave we both have spina bifida and are in wheelchairs so we kinda know how it is to be disabled in the real world we are both kinda fairly new to this lifestyle even though i been studying the lifestyle since i was 14 but she is totally new to the lifestyle so if anyone has any advice for me feel free to contact me on here or yahoo or aim both those contacts are jay69962332 or masterofslaves23 29 Aug 06, 3:21 AM 495-367-937 US, 3 yrs  masterofslaves23 wrote: hi this is master jason here and i glad your master did so because i know myself as a master who is disabled as well as his slave we both have spina bifida and are in wheelchairs so we kinda know how it is to be disabled in the real world we are both kinda fairly new to this lifestyle even though i been studying the lifestyle since i was 14 but she is totally new to the lifestyle so if anyone has any advice for me feel free to contact me on here or yahoo or aim both those contacts are jay69962332 or masterofslaves23 I found this really awesome group at a lifejournal forum http://kinked.org/index.php Its for ppl with disabilities devotion 11 Oct 06, 9:41 AM Michael_X UK, 3 yrs  TheFamily wrote: Life with disability is more straightforward for dominants - the most famous probably being Jon Jacobs who was a prevalent poster on early internet forums, co-author of 'Different Loving' and quite a character. He died a while back still trying to type while blind, wheelchair bound and in financial difficulties, but still a capable owner of a loving slave and mentor to many who respected him. Interesting, I had heard a somewhat different account. I think the thing with disabilities is to make a clear distinction that the person is a person with disabilities and not a "disabled" person, or simply "disabled". I'm partially sighted. With spectacles I can see fine but have a visual field defect. I also have a phantom eye. I can "see" out of my right eye even though it was eviscerated over a decade ago. I'll spare people the neurobiological basis of that fascinating phenomenon. A while back I decided to have Claire stay on my left when we were out thinking it would work better. Whoops, turns out I have become so used to adjusting my head to compensate that I am more prone to errors to the far side of my good side. After accidentally catching her in the face a few times and such I dropped that one. Many disabilities can be significantly mitigated or aggravated by environmental factors. Likewise the impact can be reduced by learning ways to work around them or despite them, possibly using CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy). For myself, others may differ, the thing that is the most irksome is that since it isn't obvious people sometimes attribute glitches caused by it to other things, even deliberate intent. It can be very frustrating. Michael. 11 Oct 06, 5:06 PM Dark_Angel1 US(FL), 2 yrs  Wow another great forum that helps so many without trying. I'm partialy deaf, learning disabled(dyslexia), asthma, roseacia, and heel spurs. I've always had a problem with ingrown toe nails and have had one completly removed. You do have to adjust, but as long is you have a caring Master things can work out. Becouse of my Asthma, and allergys of course I can't wear mask that cover the mouth or be gagged for long periods of time. In fact more then a few minutes and I'd probaly panic sending myself into an attack. I'm lucky my bad knees and feet haven't made kneeling a problem yet, and I steal hear fine long as you don't whisper. Knowing other's have coped with worse will help me face each day as it comes even is my problems get worse with time and age. Togather with caring Master's and friends like these found here our lifes can be rich and rewarding while practicing our own lifestyle choices. Thanks... JJ's Slave 14 Oct 06, 11:37 PM ShadesOEs_Fox CA, 2 yrs  I am so happy to see so many who live with disabilities that are also living this lifestyle. And that probably came out sounding poorly ... What I meant was simply that where I live many in the lifestyle that I see at events and such are healthy and have no apparent problems. Its awkward explaining to a dominant why they won't see my Lord tying me up and using me at a play party for others to view ... a few have made comments of wanting to see such. After many years, various doctors and a full year of testing following the death of my second child, I finally recieved diagnosis of health problems that had been plaguing me for years by that point. I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome Type 3 Hypermobile, Fibromyalgia with myofacial pain, Anti Phospholipid Syndrome, Tachycardia, Vasospasmodic disorder (which gives me migraines and Raynaud's Syndrome), Discoid Lupus, nearsightedness and pre-invasive cervical cancer. Yes they tested me for Systemic lupus erythematosus but my ANA is still negative ... A good thing they tell me. The first two on the list affect brain function mildly, mainly I live in a forgetful fog, which is very irritating and I swear has developed into a mild form of OCD(obsessive-compulsive) or OCD might have been there before hand anyways and we don't worry about those little voices anymore ^_^. Anywho, its kind of humbling when one is out driving to the grocery store and forgets where they're going half way there ... the humour here is my instinctive place to drive to is work ... >.> Yep, no idea why there and not, oh say ... Home. Good thing My Lord and my daughter both are quite used to my bouts of forgetfulness and are very happy to remind me where we're going mid trip if needed or that I have forgotten something in general, like my purse or his coffee. I suffer seasonal depression as well, though its improved somewhat as I am happer in life these days then before I had met My Lord. The only thing that is somewhat curable in my list is the cancer, which I will find out in december if they got it all this time. Otherwise, I will lose use of my right leg most likely in my mid forties, and although the doctors tell me there is a surgery they could try which would end up with them shortening the ligaments that hold my hip in place (or are supposed to, but they do a lousy job) and buy me possibly five more years of walking ... Its not a guarantee it'd work and they will only do it once for each joint, plus I have to lose full function of the leg first before I am a candidate for the surgery. So suspension by the limbs is not doable for me ^_^ which bites, I always wanted to try that. I can't kneel for long periods of time, so we work around alot of that sort of stuff, I kneel before him first then sit at his feet after he acknowledges me. When we do bondage, we make sure my limbs are fully supported and not expected to hold their own weight (My ankles, wrists, knees, elbows and shoulders all sub-luxate and hips fully dislocate.) This works for us very well. If I am very achy in the muscles then we avoid full body flogging or anything similar, my bottom usually appeases him enough for those periods. If my discoid lupus is active, then we simply avoid irritating the area with cuffs, rope, tape, etc. He pays close attention to me during playtime (and well all the time, lol) to make sure I am alright and nothing's popped, snapped or stuttered. I am his most precious possession, he tells me, and it is his duty to take care of his property when I am unwell. Sorry to ramble on ... In the end, my point is that although I have some issues, I am not willing to allow my disabilities to take anything away from my life. I still work a full time job, take care of My Lord and my daughter as best as I can through and around my problems. There are so many activities and services that can still be done with a little thought and imagination. Life's too short not to live it the way we want to and if this is indeed my only shot at life, then its going to be enjoyable as much as I can make it that way ... sometimes though I need a little help up off the floor and a point in the right direction. ShadesofEcstasy's property, His Fox Next page