Discussion of polygyny and polyandry in M/s and 24/7 D/s relationships http://www.seekdiscipline.com/boards/poly/ The IC RSS Gadget webmaster@informedconsent.co.uk 360 Fri, 02 Jan 2009 00:57:10 GMT Fri, 02 Jan 2009 00:57:10 GMT Fri, 02 Jan 2009 00:57:10 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178234/ His_first Happy new year! Just a quick post to introduce ourselves and say hello to the community. To be honest, this is very intimidating, but here goes. Thu, 01 Jan 2009 10:31:51 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178232/ goodsubslavepoly first of all theres me i have a history of being a slave adult babie and having a abusesive husband for twenty years im 45 now im getting involved with to adult babies ones just like new born mentally he is hard to get to be good but its working hes bahaveing then a female whos new to being daipered she just pees her daiper thank god but she loves to play games and watch cartoons with are babyboy all living together im naturally submissive and im the mommie in the family doing all the cooking handling responsibiltys changing all the daipers and having a blast with my adult kids we all sleep together in the same bed like micheal jackson does with his kids my new adult kids are 24 im 45 and im loving it but is it crazy to not have sex stressed mommie Danielle Tue, 30 Dec 2008 01:24:31 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178218/ Cpl4BiFSub Here is my situation and question...My Master and I have a sub coming to live with us, she will be here on the first of Jan. She is new to the D/s, M/s and BDSM lifestyle, but the dilemma is that she is a mute and cannot speak. How can my Master and I communicate with her during our play sessions etc..?? I know basic sign language and my Master knows none but she assured us that she would help us learn. I am sure that in time we will not have any problems communicating but in the beginning I am concerned since we would still be new to it and would still be learning her body language etc. How would we set up something such as a "safe word"? We all get along great with each other and have developed a really close friendship and bond through the emails and IM's that we have exchanged back and forth. We all really want this to work out. If anyone can offer us any ideas or suggestions it would be greatly appreciated. Sun, 28 Dec 2008 03:20:16 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178210/ Slave_of_Aaron So my situation is this: Mon, 22 Dec 2008 13:31:25 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178189/ eerie_bug I'm a "third", having joined an existing, incredibly secure and loving M/s couple. I'm sub, rather than slave (Sir is at the head of the household, Miss is slave to him, and I am submissive to them both). Originally this was meant to not be that serious, but to all our surprises has turned into much much more... Although we don't live far apart, we don't see each other on weekdays, but I've spent all weekend every weekend with them since we met. Mon, 08 Dec 2008 05:17:17 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178124/ slave_of_George my Master recently took another slave and made her #1. we are now expected to share, which i am cool with, in theory. however the three of us have never sat down and discussed the details of these intertwined relationships WHATSOEVER. Sun, 07 Dec 2008 13:36:36 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178119/ alphaboypuck Hello everyone. Thu, 04 Dec 2008 06:31:13 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178104/ MasterItaly After being in such a lifestyle for so long I now find myself at the dreadful road of change. Do to my lack of needing to search for such a long time I am now needing to find a new submissive and slave to create a Poly family once more. What is the best way of finding such women interested in the Poly family now? Although I am a seasoned Master I have not had to do the search in a real long time. Please help. Thu, 04 Dec 2008 03:36:47 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178102/ his_slavepet I posted this on the service board, and it was suggested that I post it here...I concurred, so here it is. Thank you to everyone for letting me share my experiences, even those most painful and embarassing, and for your encouragement. I hope tha my experiences will help you all as much as yours help me! The original post: Sat, 22 Nov 2008 12:47:26 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/178042/ Degenerate Hi all,this is my first post and I am a regular from another forum when poly and M/s are very much a minority and often misunderstood. There I am frequently singing the praises of poly and how it can and does work for us, feeling proud of my fantastic little family, and trying to be supportive to others.. and now all of a sudden I am wobbling.. it's so nice to see a serious poly forum somewhere and I am feeling really glad I may be able to discuss this here and at least be taken seriously. Mon, 27 Oct 2008 06:03:51 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177940/ GypsySlave ... Fri, 24 Oct 2008 02:33:23 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177931/ 000-446-713 Almost every M/s couple I know seems to be seeking a long term thrid, and we are no exception. I thought this would be a good board to open this discussion on, becuase this community is less 'personal ad' driven than some others, and more M/s-ish. But, I might bring it up in other communities as well. Thu, 16 Oct 2008 21:56:39 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177898/ Remoses Among certain blue-nose types, we hear talk of marriage being defined as between a man and a woman. However…as many of us already know, that definition fails to properly address the dynamic among poly households. Thu, 16 Oct 2008 19:49:41 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177896/ babydoll_42066 I am fairly new to this lifestyle and have found my first 24/7 relationship to be difficult. My Master has been married to his wife(sub and switch) for two years. I only joined them this past June and became collared shortly afterward. The awkward part in O/our family is that there is no sexual interaction or interest between his wife and I. That was established pretty early on and Master has not pushed the matter. Is this normal to live in a poly household and not be sexually active with all members? There are small jealousy issues between us girls, but I have been working really hard to not be jealous. I know that he loves us both equally and punishes me when I show jealousy, which helps to deter any sour feelings. I am mainly looking to see if there are any other girls in my position and how these issues are handled. Thank you. Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:45:57 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177885/ CherieMarie Well to give everyone the general situation. This is my first m/s relationship. I recently left a 3 year vanilla marriage i got married at 18. I now live with my master. I am bi polar, OCD, ADD, Nuerotic, and i have dyslexia. So mentally/emotionally i'm not stable, you can say. Our relationship we do say I love you. And the first time I've said it and meant it. It my vanilla marriage I didnt mean it.. we got married for all the wrong reasons. Anyways. My Master and I had a three sum last weekend. My first one for me. All I asked was that he pay equal attention, use a condom and since it was just a three sum. Afterwards there would be no affection towards her. Well he promised me that he would grant me those three wishes.. and in the end he broke all three.. I followed through cause I wanted to make him happy, But I felt so betrayed, so hurt. I told him and he said he was sorry. Now he is has expressed that he wants more then another slave possibly two other slaves. That yes I will be his main, and that he will eventually like them to live with us.. in the future. I told him I would because I do love him and I dont want to lose him. I will do my best to make him happy, I just need some advice on how to deal with a Poly BDSM lifestyle when your in love. Sun, 31 Aug 2008 06:18:20 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177741/ OpheliaDies72 Hello there. Thank you for reading. I just have some questions, and was wondering if anyone was in a like situation, or had any ideas to help. I am a domme. I have been in the lifestyle for over a decade now, minus the last 2 years. I have been in a regular vanilla relationship, and am now married to a wonderful man. I do love him, dearly, but I miss the lifestyle. Everything about it calls to me. I have talked to him about this, and altho he doesnt understand the need, the urge, I feel for these things, he states am free to find a sub/slave woman, and if it will make me happy, he will be happy. So first, would this actually be possible? Can I start a poly hosuehold without ruining my marriage? In some ways I think yes. He is a kind loving giving man, and truely does want me happy. But how do I make him see this is different than what we share? Second question then, is if this does happen, what rules should we start with? I undersand to each couple their own, but I was wondering if there were other couples and what theirs were. Third, then, is those of you who have tried this, or live the lifestyle, what happened? What made it work, or not work, in your case? Thank you all for reading, again. Any advice you give would be greatly appreciated. ~k~ Tue, 26 Aug 2008 05:16:21 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177723/ Master_Fusion she is married but not in any kind of D/s relationship, and is looking for a Master to take as much control over her as possible i am trying to help her find a Dom for her, what advice would you have for her and her possible Dom? Sun, 24 Aug 2008 00:17:31 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177717/ moncherie Master and I have recently learned that my sister is a Domme. I got punished by him last weekend for saying '$&^%$ you' to her. Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:04:56 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177709/ 234-086-891 I have been in Masters service for over a year now, I love him with all I am and I cant see life without him, We have talked about adding a second to our life together as we both would love to have a huge family. My problem is that My master has a vanilla relationship as well. They have been together just a few months longer than he and I have been. I dont have a problem with her, she is lovely and vary sweet but, she dosent understand master and I's relationship and expresses her hatred for me all the time. Master Defends me but I know that he grows frustrated with us both needing his attention and competing for his affection. I know I wont have any problem adding a 2nd to us because we have had a few fleeting relationships. But I find my self competing more and starting to resent there relation ship...I dont see how he can get any joy out of a vanilla relationship and a M/S relationship. Do any of you have any Ideas about what I should do? I know its kind of complicated... Tue, 19 Aug 2008 23:46:33 GMT http://www.seekdiscipline.com/posts/177701/ enahrose This is actually what I wrote in my journal today but decided maybe you WONDERFUL and insightful people may be able to help me sort my feelings and confused thoughts.